I found out today that one of my friends from WAY back is expecting her first baby. I'm super excited for her and want to drown her in congratulations and questions, BUT.
We aren't close anymore. We have minimal interaction, even with the various technologies that make relationships a breeze now a-days. I don't want her to feel like now that she's having a baby she's suddenly worth my time and attention, but that's kind of how it is. Not because I'm more interested in her baby than her, but because now we're on common ground.
When you become a mom, it's hard to find things in common with other women that don't have children and it's hard to keep friends that don't have babies around the same time. Where their worries include work, clothes, and friends, yours is baby, baby, and baby. Where their fun is friends, parties, and spontaneity, yours is playdates, pat-a-cake, and nap schedules. Getting together involves so much more than grabbing your purse and sunglasses and hopping in the car.
So, expecting and new moms, when a woman with children approaches you and seems to suddenly take an interest in your new life, I hope you don't take it the wrong way. It's not the baby that makes you interesting, it's just that now we're on the same playing field.
Congratulations and Game on!
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